We hope this helps you be a better friend to yourself and contributes to your growth!
Too often, compare our grades, achievements, relationships, and lifestyle among countless things with that of other people. Here’s how to leave that behind.
Know the Difference b/w Real & Reel
As people now do things more for their Instagram and not for the actual experience, social media rarely depicts the reality of our lives. Not everything is “aesthetic” or “Insta-worthy.” If you are envious of something on your feed, remind yourself that the truth may not be as picture-perfect or likable.
Cut the Noise
It can be really anxiety-inducing when your family or society at large expects you to achieve certain things. But you need to define your own standards of growth. The only expectations you must stick to are yours.
Chase Contentment, Not Rainbows
It’s easy to resent yourself when you see other people doing things you want to do. But the list of our wants is endless. Regardless of achieving something, the possibility of being fully satisfied is dismal. We always want more. So the real question for you is, how content do you feel at the end of the day?
Embrace Your Passions And Potential
You need to identify your areas of progress. What are the things you need to work on? What excites you to do better? Always start from a place of passion and make your way from there. Working on yourself becomes easier when you are inspired rather than envious.
What Makes You Unique?
It’s so crucial to be aware of your uniqueness, not in the eyes of someone else, but within yourself. What are the things that make you you? The things without which you can’t imagine being you. These also might be the quirks that you dismiss as they make you feel embarrassed. But they are critical to your identity.
Jealousy Into Admiration
If you feel jealous of someone, rather than falling down the rabbit hole of self-loathing and negative feelings, try hyping them up. Tell them that they are fantastic and doing a fabulous job, and you wish them the best. Healthily direct your emotions. This will make you less critical of not only yourself but also other people.
Where Did It Start?
No one is born with comparisons in their head. Reflect on your past, especially your childhood, and see when you started being hard on yourself. What it because of a critical family member or bullying at school? Did peer pressure get too much for you? Once you address the root cause, it’ll only get easier.
In Your Own Time
Take your time to do all these things, and there‘s no hurry. Your journey is set on your clock and no one else’s. It may feel like there is a timeline you are supposed to follow. Otherwise, you will get left behind. But you can’t be falling behind if you drop out of the rat race altogether.